COUPLES THERAPY


We all want love and yet we often struggle to get it . . .

We all want love and yet we often struggle to get it . . .

My Approach

My approach is client centered.  I tailor our sessions to meet you both where you’re at and take you where you want to go. 

When working with couples, I use Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and the Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy (PACT).  What that means is I’ve been trained to help couples increase sensitivity, fairness and mutuality by deepening their attunement to themselves and their partner.  This releases defensiveness and promotes compassion and intimacy.  I also help couples truly hear one another, acknowledge the positive, and learn rewarding new ways to work together. 

 

I AM PARTICULARLY SKILLED IN WORKING WITH:

  • Upsetting communication patterns
  • Triggers and trauma from the past 
  • Cultural differences and power dynamics
  • Healing after affairs 
  • Open relationships or Polyamory
  • LGBTQ issues
  • Sex and intimacy problems

 

Partnering up is full of big decisions, big emotions, big negotiations and big changes.  We often try our best but feel like we’re blindly trudging through unknown territory.  That’s because every relationship is unique and brings it’s own set of difficulties.  Plus we’re bringing all our expectations and hurts from the past.  It’s a lot to hold without support.

Couple’s Therapy can be one of the most rewarding experiences.  It’s a process. It helps stop negative patterns and promotes the strengths of your relationship.  It’s also a place where you can connect deeply with your partner while learning about your desires, needs and how to communicate them. 

Getting stuck and suffering in a relationship isn’t necessary.  With guidance, you can overcome problems and find solutions that work for both of you. 

 

Couples Counseling can teach you to... 

 •  Communicate more effectively & create positive patterns

 •   Work through disagreements or differences

 •   Be assertive and get your needs met

 •   Create safety together to be authentic

 •   Let go of the past, forgive and grow into something new

 •   Relate in healthier ways and develop more love

 


I look forward to meeting you!

Contact me for a free 20 minute chat to see if we’d be a good fit to work together.  

415.890.3773         Brendan@TheLoveTherapist.org