"Living Like You Mean It" by Ron Fredrick

"Wired For Love, Wired For Dating & Love and War in Intimate Relationships" by Stan Tatkin

"Hold Me Tight" by Sue Johnson

"The Mindful Way through Depression: Freeing Yourself from Chronic Unhappiness" by Mark Williams, John Teasdale, Zindel Segal, Jon Zabat-Zinn

"Tell Me No Lies: How to Face the Truth and Build a Loving Marriage" by Bader and Pearson

"The Transforming Power of Affect" by Diana Fosha



A Three Part PBS Series This Emotional Life

The Power of Vulnerability (Brene Brown's TED Talk)

This Emotional Life (A Three Part PBS Series)

Wired For Love (Stan Tatkin Interview)

The Brain In Love (Helen Fisher's TED Talk)

The Secret To Desire In A Long Term Relationship (Esther Perel's TED Talk)

It's Not About The Nail (Educational Comedy Video)

How Enlightened People Argue (Educational Comedy Video)


Free Phone Counseling

San Francisco’s Suicide Prevention Suicide/Crisis Line: (415) 781-0500

San Francisco’s Suicide Prevention Drug/Relapse Line: (415) 362-3400

Institute on Aging’s Friendship Line for the Elderly: (415) 752-3778

SF Child Abuse Prevention Center’s Parental Stress/TALK Line: (415) 441-KIDS

C.H.A.L.K.’s National Youth Line: (888) 977-3399

GLBT National Youth Talk Line: (800) 246-774

California AIDS Hotline: (415) 863-AIDS

AIDS/HIV Nightline: (415) 434-AIDS


Gay Men

Mens Inner Journey

Mens Inner Journey Video (I speak at the end of it)



Castro Country Club



Eugene Cash

Howard Cohn

Anushka Fernandopulle (SF LGBT sangha)

Spirit Rock Meditation Center

East Bay Meditation Center



Yoga Tree

Laughing Lotus



Wood Tiger Acupuncture



Shelters for Women

W.O.M.A.N., Inc: (415) 864-4722

La Casa de Las Madres: (415) 503-0500

Asian Women’s Shelter: (415) 751-7110

S.F. Dept. of Social Services (Adult Services Program): (415) 557-5251